Original:
For the younger generation they don’t know the difference between online friendships and the ones in person. Many kids are stuck with tablets to help keep them busy, instead of going to the park and playing. It wasn’t until 7th grade that I ended up getting a phone and I believe that it shaped me into the person I am today. I would be lost today and probably wouldn’t have the same aspirations as I do now, if I had been subjected to the false relationships that so many of my peers were getting into online. Having a screen shoved in your face does more damage than we know, and with the younger generation that’s all they have been handed. In “The Limits of Friendship” Konnikova points out the details of the negative effects that social media has on the brains of children now. Social skills do not develop as they would if they were made in person. Many of us learn from watching our parents, friends, family, and if we don’t have that aspect then social awareness is harmed. Dunbar is afraid that as time progresses, more people will grow up in a less social world and fully turn to using social platforms to communicate (Konnikova 7). The thought of having a fully electronic world scares me. What does this mean for the next generation, how will they be able to communicate or handle difficult situations? Our world needs help as we speak and then add the lack of communication, problem solving, and forming genuine connections. Social media also lacks the sense of physical touch that is represented in our lives. In my opinion social media cannot recreate getting a hug from your mom or dad or a friend that you haven’t seen in a long time. Nothing is better than getting to see that one person in a while after being away at college and being able to share an embrace. Konnikova says, “Words are easy. But the way someone touches you, even casually, tells you more about what they’re thinking of you”(Konnikova 5). All of us can send a text on instagram or snapchat but really no matter how you say it or what you say will even be able to copy that feeling that comes from contact.
Naysayer:
To the point that the younger generation is being destroyed by social media and the screens they actually might be helpful. There are so many online platforms in addition to schooling that these kids can learn from. Also, shouldn’t they be learning social skills from their parents, maybe their siblings, or even their teachers. Why is it that if a child has a phone or tablet that they are going to be utterly destroyed. And isn’t it awful to assume that the only reason why they might be a little socially awkward or shy is because of the phone? Why can’t a kid just be a kid, and learn by others on how to act. Maybe the future generations will figure out how to incorporate social media and technology better within our lives. Physical touch is important to grow up with, from your parents, siblings but it’s not everything. What if social media is that kid’s way to feel loved as silly as that sounds. You can’t possibly tell that everything a child that grows up with social media is being deprived of contact. So, is social media all that bad as it is shown to be?
Response:
Proponents of the naysayer are right to argue that social media cant be all that bad for children and cant be the sole reason why they become the way they are. But they exaggerate when they claim that kids should be learning social skills from their parents, siblings or teachers. What happens if a child does not have a proper home life and they live in a city that doesn’t have a good education system. What happens if that education system doesn’t have teachers that care enough to properly teach their children how to behave, or the social norms of society. What if they don’t have anyone to teach them that being on social media 24/7 is bad for their brain development. While it is true that a kid should just be a kid, it does not necessarily follow that kids should be outside playing with other kids. Enjoying the sunshine, and not in their bedrooms sitting in their racecar beds talking to their “friends” from school on social media.